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ISABELLE ZEHNDER ON:
FAMILY AND
PARENT / TEEN
COACHING
Visit:
www.positivefamilysolutions.com
E-mail:
coaching@positivefamilysolutions.com
Coaching
for Families of Troubled Teens
FAMILY AND PARENT / TEEN
COACHING
Message to parents:
 As
your kids make the shift into the teen years everything changes.
Their bodies and minds are changing, their school environment is
changing, their relationships with their peers are changing, the way
they view the world is changing, their needs are changing. And their
relationship with you is changing. Many feel the weight of the world
on their shoulders. They are constantly told not to do the very
things they are daily being pressured to do.
As parents we expect them to stay
away from drugs, sex, and alcohol, keep their rooms clean, excel in
school and extra-curricular activities, make all the right decisions
- often without acknowledging their daily challenges.
Many of the problems between
parents and teens occur because of a lack of communication and a
lack in parents having the tools they need to make the shift from
parenting a child to parenting a teen. And there most definitely
needs to be a shift.
 Raising a child is one thing.
Raising an adolescent is quite another. Children move through
several stages from childhood through the teen years. We act as the managers in our
children’s lives when they are young by scheduling appointments,
providing transportation, and organizing events.
As they make the shift into
adolescence our role as parents needs to change. Teens want and need
to become the managers of their own lives. They desperately want to
know their parents trust them to make this shift.
So, if you feel like your teen or
pre-teen is a complete stranger, if the lines of communication have
been severed, if your teen is making poor choices or is struggling
in school, if you feel all hope is gone and that you are running out
of options, we suggest you stop - take a breath - and reassess.
There is hope ... coaching can help.
About coaching:
Family and parent and teen coaching
is different from therapy in that therapy typically delves into the
family's past to try and figure out how you got to where you are
today. When parents are coping with immediate problems, they want
and need immediate results. While therapy is great for many
situations, we have found that for many families coaching works more
quickly and yields more immediate results.
Why? Because coaching looks at
where you are today and where you would like to see yourself, and
your family, tomorrow. It is about figuring out what is going wrong
and about paving the path to making things right again. It is about
helping you feel grounded in yourself so that you will have the
strength you need when faced with the many challenges of raising a
pre-teen or teen.
It is about providing parents tools
they can put to use immediately - tools that help them cope with the
tough times so that they will occur less and less. It is about
opening channels of communication with your teen so that you can,
together, share a level of respect and understanding that will help
bring peace back into your home.
A good coach will provide parents
insights into their teen's world, and will explain the shift in
parenting style that needs to occur as children move into the
pre-teen and teen years.
It is important that the coach you
work with is certified and qualified. Be sure he or she has been
through a certification program that focuses on family issues.
Three Layers of Learning™
 Positive Family Solutions™ has
found a winning combination for parents ready to delve into becoming
their teens’ coach, the Three Layers of learning™.
First, an interactive
experience-based coaching relationship is developed between parent
and coach. The coach asks the parent for his or her desired
outcomes.
Next, throughout the coaching
relationship your coach will provide you with learning and
developmental tools, including helpful books and workbooks. You will
then have the opportunity to read, reflect, and observe what you
have learned. You will also receive resources appropriate to meet
your individual needs.
And finally, through coaching,
weekly reading, and practical homework assignments, you will have
the opportunity to immediately put the skills into practice. These
skills can then be applied to everyday life.
Benefits of coaching:
 The benefits of coaching are
ever-reaching. While working to become your teen's coach you will
find that you too will benefit from the experience. One client
recently said, “I’ve seen a positive change not only in my kids but
in myself as well.”
The fact is … many of today’s
parents were raised in homes where they felt silenced, like they
didn’t measure up and that’s not what they wanted for their child.
Yet they struggle to find ways to open the lines of communication
with their teen. As a result many parents have lost hope.
With the support of a skilled coach
parents and teens can coexist in an environment rooted in Trust,
Support, Respect, and Understanding - an environment free of
punishment and undeserved guilt.
Coaching creates Harmony when once
there was Discord - Joy when once there was Despair - Peace of mind
when once there was Confusion.
By making the shift to Appreciate,
to Understand, to Support, and to Respect our children and our
spouses, teens and pre-teens can experience healthy connections in
the home with parents and outside the home with their peers.
Visit:
www.positivefamilysolutions.com
E-mail:
coaching@positivefamilysolutions.com
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